Im gay 19 y/o with a bf of 1.5 yrs. I love him a lot but the sex isn't that exciting now and we get into a lot of petty arguments. despite that, we are better then any couple I've seen. That said, Ive recently had an EXTREME attraction to this gorgeous guy at college, hes so enticing to be around and we have a lot in common. We started being friends but ended up at his house cuddling and ended up j/o eachother. Im distressed because i liked it and i want to go out with him but afraid to break up
AnonymousIt would be wrong for me to say that you shouldn’t be attracted to this new guy, because we’re human. and we can’t help it. However, my theory always has been, if the attraction is strong enough that you actually ACT on that attraction, something needs to be done.
That being said, you and your boyfriend may be the best couple in the world, but in the end, if you aren’t extremely happy with the way things are going, sexually and emotionally, you need to speak up about it. Just say, I think our fighting is getting out of hand, and I really think we need to learn to communicate better. Your fighting may be whats affecting your sex. I recommend first trying to get a grip on this relationship before pursuing one with someone else. Maybe two months from now if you aren’t feeling better about it, you should just come to terms with the fact that you’re not happy and that you need to end it. If that’s the case, I would most definitely recommend trying things with this new guy. But, don’t start something without finishing what you already have! Good luck, let me know how it goes!
So all my life I've considered myself straight and never even second guessed it. However, I've kissed a couple guys and I have never felt anything; no spark, no emotion, nothing. Kissing, and anything beyond that, was quite boring for me. Does not feeling anything when I kissed those guys mean I'm not straight, or just that I didn't particularly like those guys to begin with?
AnonymousYou stated you’ve never second guessed it. This, for me, is the first sign to say you’re most definitely straight. Whatever you were feeling when you sent this is normal. We get wrapped up in “the normality” of life, and what we are SUPPOSED to do and what we are SUPPOSED to feel. So when we don’t get that “rush of love” moment from kissing, or whatever it may be, we freak out and think something is wrong with us. Most likely, it’s like you said - you just didn’t like those guys. You’ll find someone eventually that you DO have sparks with, and you’ll be very glad that you waited.
basically, I hooked up with this guy two years ago...I was his first gay experience, I felt as if we were perfect for each other.. he ended getting a boyfriend and they were together up until recently the end of last year... I wanna be with him soo badly and I can see us together.. he just wants to be friends.. How can I make him see what he is missing out on? yes, I know there are other fishes out there..but he is my fish I wanna catch on my hook <3
I AM SO TERRIBLE. Do you even realize how long it’s taken me to get back to you? I’m so sorry. I’ve read this a hundred times, and can’t even wrap my head around what to say to you. Normally, I would do the whole speech about how if he can’t see what is right in front of him, he doesn’t deserve to….but honestly. that’s crap. you like him, and you should go for it! I don’t know exactly how to get him to realize. there are so many ways you could approach this. mostly, I think if you’re happy, and independent, but still let him know that you’d be willing to give him a chance,he’ll come to you eventually. you know? just don’t be obsessive. and do your own thing. he’ll get it eventually, if he’s smart… good luck!!! let me know how it goes!
